We all have an idea of what success would look like to us. Some of us want big income and a career position that others admire; some of us want comfort with loved ones all around; some of us just want our kids to be happy and fulfilled; and some of us want to make a difference to society.
No matter what success looks like to you, getting there is a journey – a lifelong one, actually. Because once we humans reach a goal, we tend to set a new one based on what our next step toward success looks like.
But there are “devils” that will derail us on our quest – enemies that actually come from within. And while it may be comfortable to blame other people or circumstances, we have to look within if we are to figure out what is keeping us from our success. So, here are the enemies and how you can defeat them.
You got a college degree in a high-demand career field. You have the “world by the tail.” But now you have had an epiphany, and you realize that this is not what success looks like to you. You want to write; you want to be an author of mystery thrillers. But what will your parents and your friends think if you give up this great career for a path that will be far less lucrative and even risky? Your fear of what others will think paralyzes you.
Yet another fear is that of failure. What is you give up that career and start writing books? And what if you get hundreds of rejections from publishers? Think about this. J.K. Rowling get over 250 rejections before a publisher took a chance on her.
The only way to overcome fear is to accept the fact that you might fail. Ask yourself: “What is the worst that could happen?” You will ultimately fail and have to choose some other path to the success you want. Or instead of mystery thrillers, you’ll choose another writing path. If that is the worst that could happen, what in the world is stopping you?
A pretty solid of overcoming fear is to have a “Plan B” if Plan A doesn’t work out. Then, you can move forward with much greater comfort and can always tell your parents and friends that you do have a contingency plan.
- Not Knowing Your Strengths and Challenges
Sometimes this is called being self-aware. You can have a success goal, but it is just a goal without a plan. And that plan has to include a realistic assessment of your strengths and weaknesses. If you really want to be designer and developer of computer games, and you know your math skills are pretty poor, how will you overcome that? Many inventors and scientists have actually struggled with math too, but they learned to compensate. Maybe you are the creative idea person – that is your strength. So, you develop a partnership with a programmer who can bring that idea to life. The point is this: once you honestly analyze what you can and cannot do, you can do something about the “cannot.” It may be more education/training, or it may be forming a partnership with someone who offsets your challenges.
- Procrastination/Lack of Focus
It’s so easy to say, “Tomorrow I will start working on my relationship with my partner.” Really? What can you do today? And if you find yourself avoiding that “work,” always coming up with something else that needs your attention, then you have no passion for the success goal you have set. This goes for everything in your life. Procrastination and lack of focus (or motivation) are symptoms of a larger issue. And that larger issue is usually that what you tell yourself is your success goal is really not. Or, that fear is holding you back.
It’s time for a re-assessment. Step back and do some serious introspection. What do you really want to do? If you are not working on that relationship perhaps it is because it is not the right one for you. If you are not starting that job search, maybe the positions you are seeking are not really what you want. don’t make any changes until you are confident about what success will really look like.
Remember this: We always find time for the things we really want to do. What is it that you always find time to do? Maybe your success is along that path.
- The Company You Keep
The adage is true: The company you keep is who you are. How are the people you hang with assisting you on your path to success? It’s comfortable to remain in the same social circles that have provided you comfort and support for years. They may be high school or college chums; they may be co-workers. But if they are not aware of your goals and are not supporting and encouraging you in the pursuit of those goals, then they comprise a bad social circle.
You have to develop relationships with people who think like you do, people who have similar success goals as you. Get out there and find those people, join groups and organizations where these people are. They will be supportive, enthusiastic, and will provide you with the encouragement and motivation you need.
There are No Shortcuts
You can sit around and wish that you will win the lottery, that the right partner will magically show up, or that the perfect job will just fall into your lap. Not going to happen. You have to be proactive and take the steps to defeat those enemies that are preventing your success. Take a look at these enemies and make your plans to defeat them right now.
Bio: James Daily is a professional writer, content manager, and blogger at Flash Essay.
He counts astronomy, psychology, and cinema among his myriad interests.