Leadership : Playing with a Full Deck - Part 2
PLAYING the Game of Life WITH A FULL DECK - PART 2
by Thomas James Vanderbeck
A Primer on Compassionate, Proactive Self Leadership and Personal Accountability
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The NEGATIVE AUTOMATIC PROGRAM
I was an undergraduate university student when my NAP became undeniably evident to me. I would occasionally meet a coed with whom I would become suddenly infatuated. I would make her the focus of my life, the center of my universe, my reason for being, and the source of my happiness. I imagined and believed that she, at last, was "the one" who would complete me and transform my life to become full of affection, purpose, and joy. Finally, having met this angel, I would fervently hope and believe that I would be forever safe, irrevocably secure, and blissfully blessed with spiritual love.
Of course, my early romances were doomed from the very outset. My unconscious, ill-conceived, and automatic program for true love was set up like a table covered with mouse traps, each with a ping-pong ball resting lightly on top. Once one was triggered, there was no controlling the chain reactions in my romantic entanglements. The majority of poor young women upon whom I unknowingly foisted this slapstick tragedy were set up for tears. And I was fully accountable.
6. Discovering My NAP 9
7. The Dysfunctional Family Feud 11
8. NAP Logic 11
9. How the NAP Works 12
10. The Prime Directive 13
11. Shame and Guilt 15
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