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7 Biggest Public Speaking Mistakes Entrepreneurs can Easily Avoid – Jason Phillips

It doesn’t matter how long you spend planning what you are going to say. It will not have the required impact unless you also consider how you say it. One of the biggest mistakes that many people make when speaking in public is to forget the importance of natural, yet professional speaking. The subject matter is irrelevant if the audience spends all their time spotting obvious verbal mistakes. This detracts from the message you are attempting to get across and will affect how you are perceived by those in the audience.

Speaking 4

Repeating words and adding fillers

There are many words, such as “um” or “like” which fit into our everyday conversations. They are used to ensure the conversation is relaxed and comfortable. However, in a professional setting they come across very differently. These small words are used to fill gaps to avoid the silence that would otherwise exist. In fact, the silences are good opportunities for a speaker to collect their thoughts while the audience absorbs the information. Using filler words will suggest to the audience that you are not comfortable or knowledgeable about your subject matter and they will lose confidence in your speech.

Speaking fast

Nerves can often get the best of many public speakers and this can result in your words coming out too fast. This prevents your message from coming across clearly as your audience will struggle to understand what you are saying. Rushing your speech will not allow the audience an opportunity to absorb your words and will quickly lose their attention. The best way to deal with this is to take a deep breath before each sentence; this will slow the speech and allow the pauses described above.

Speaking 5Volume

It can be very frustrating for a member of the audience to be interested in what you have to say but unable to hear your speech properly. Modern technology will help distribute your voice around the audience but certain types of voices carry better. High pitched sounds always travel better than low pitched ones but it is not necessarily possible to adjust the pitch of your voice. Instead it is essential to speak slowly and clearly. Take plenty of deep breaths and pauses to allow each sentence to be short and meaningful. This will not only help with projecting your voice it will help to keep the audience interested.

Gravelly voices

If you rush your speech and do not breathe properly then you will cause a restriction of your throat. This will result in your voice sounding gravelly or creaky. Unfortunately, most audiences will find this very annoying to listen to and will quickly switch off. Again this problem can be resolved by breathing properly. It can also help to record yourself and see if there are any particular times when this occurs.

Allowing the sentence to fade away

It is very common in all conversations and speeches for your voice to fade towards the end of a sentence. This can often mean that the most important part of a presentation is missed as your audience struggle to hear you. It is essential to be aware of this and to keep your voice at an even tone right to the end of each sentence.

Questions

Public speaking does get the adrenaline and nerves going. This can result in sentences being finished on a higher note than usual. This may be a result of lack of breath or of rushing to get the speech done. Whichever the cause it undermines the confidence the audience has in the speaker. You will be speaking because you are an expert in the subject matter. Ending sentences on a higher note makes them sound like questions which leaves the audience wondering if you know what you are talking about.

Speaking 6

Monotone

This is possibly one of the worst things to do in any speech. Anyone listening to a speech which is spoken in one tone all the way through will change their focus and start them thinking about something completely different. Your voice should sound natural with some enthusiasm; after all this should be a subject you are passionate about. It is good to show this as it helps to inspire confidence in you.

Speaking is public can be dreadful. However, with a bit of practice and a lot of determination, everyone can master this art.

By Jason Phillips and LondonSpeakerBureau.com 

Playing with a Full Deck – Free downloadable book by Tom Vanderbeck, Part 2

JokerFor those of you that enjoyed Part 1 of Tom’s new book, here is the free download of Part 2 of PLAYING the Game of Life WITH A FULL DECK
A Primer on Compassionate, Proactive Self Leadership and Personal Accountability … for conversations at the kitchen table

Here’s an extract I like which offers a little more on Tom’s approach:

“Many of us have not been aware of two essential components of human consciousness, the Negative Automatic Program, or ‘NAP’, and Spiritual Amnesia. This doubly unfortunate lack of awareness severely limits our experiences of awakening our personal potentials. I call this way of being ‘Not Playing with a Full Deck’. The truth is we were all dealt a full deck of cards for playing the game of life. However, none of us were made aware of the Two Jokers, the NAP and Spiritual Amnesia. When we feel confused, frustrated, and unfulfilled; and conclude that we have not been ‘Playing With A Full Deck'; the problem has not been too few cards, but two too many.”

Part 2: The NEGATIVE AUTOMATIC PROGRAM

Excerpt

I was an undergraduate university student when my NAP became undeniably evident to me. I would occasionally meet a coed with whom I would become suddenly infatuated. I would make her the focus of my life, the center of my universe, my reason for being, and the source of my happiness. I imagined and believed that she, at last, was “the one” who would complete me and transform my life to become full of affection, purpose, and joy. Finally, having met this angel, I would fervently hope and believe that I would be forever safe, irrevocably secure, and blissfully blessed with spiritual love.

Of course, my early romances were doomed from the very outset. My unconscious, ill-conceived, and automatic program for true love was set up like a table covered with mouse traps, each with a ping-pong ball resting lightly on top. Once one was triggered, there was no controlling the chain reactions in my romantic entanglements. The majority of poor young women upon whom I unknowingly foisted this slapstick tragedy were set up for tears. And I was fully accountable”.

DOWNLOAD HERE: Playing with a Full Deck – Part 2

As already announced, this free download is part of a series of seven instalments of Playing with a Full Deck:

  1. Foreword by Ken Blanchard, and Chapter One:  The Quest to Find Myself
  2. Chapter Two:  The Negative Automatic Program
  3. Chapter Three:  Spiritual Amnesia
  4. Chapter Four:  Transcending the NAP
  5. Chapter Five:  Response-Ability
  6. Chapter Six:  Recovery from Spiritual Amnesia
  7. Chapter Seven:  Self Actualization

Already released: The Foreword and Part 1.

DOWNLOAD HERE: Playing with a Full Deck – Introduction & Foreword

DOWNLOAD HERE: Playing with a Full Deck – Chapter 1

How to Unlock Your Leadership Influence Instantly: 5 Power Words That Persuade – Denise Corcoran

DiscussionInfluential leadership is not something tangible, physical or material. Yet it’s real. You know when you are in the presence of it. Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Jr. and Steve Jobs just to name a few.

There is no leadership without influence. You can have a leadership title, yet have no influence. How influential are you? Does your team listen to your every word with attention, openness and trust? Is your team inspired to take action simply by what you say and do?

Influence comes from the latin root “influere” meaning to flow in. When you are an influential leader, your words and intentions flow into another’s unconscious mind without resistance. Your words are not just accepted. Your words motivate. Your words change minds, attitudes and behaviors.

The BIG question isHow do you develop and increase your leadership influence? This big question has a big answer. In this first of 3 articles on this topic, let’s look at the easiest and quickest way to increase your leadership influence.

The Power of Influential Words & Language

What makes certain words or language particularly persuasive or influential?

Influential words bypass the reasoning or critical mind and into a person’s unconscious mind. When using these words, you avoid a person’s resistance or defenses to what you are communicating. You are speaking directly to the part of the brain that houses his/her memories, emotions and creativity.

When you gain such powerful access to one’s mind, you can lead people to where you want them to go. Because of such power, these words should be used only for positive intentions and never for manipulative reasons. Use these words wisely and only to help a person change and grow.

Given that caveat, let’s take a look at 5 power words that can change your capacity to lead.

  1. “IMAGINE …”

Anyone who has ever worked with me knows I use the word “imagine” often to help my clients achieve breakthroughs that once seemed impossible or improbable.

As children, we lived our lives through our imaginations. And it all seemed so real.

Whether we wanted to be a monkey, or fly to Paris, or find hidden treasures of gold, our imaginations could create a whole new world in our minds in a single moment. A world where there were no limits. A world where we could be or do anything we wanted. A world where the possibilities were endless.

When I use the word imagine with my clients, my intent is to take them beyond the boundary conditions of their thinking and create new realities, new possibilities that are not accessible through the conscious mind.

Leaders who know how to tap into the imaginations of others can move mountains in their organizations without much effort. The more you tap into others’ imaginations, the more successful you and they become.

Are you ready to increase your leadership influence … right now?

Then close your eyes and …

Imagine how good it feels as you tap into your employees’ imagination, creativity and inspiration with one simple word … imagine.

Imagine how good you will feel as you prove to yourself that you can be an influential leader simply with practice of one simple word … imagine.

Don’t wait till tomorrow. Start using this one powerful word now. Have fun with it!

  1. “BECAUSE”

Think back to those times when you were a child and you attempted to negotiate with your parents for extra money, or to stay out later, or to have a snack before meals. Do you remember what mom or dad said?

After 2-3 times of your mother/father turning you down, you probably said in a pleading tone …

But why, mom?

To which your mother said …

Because I said so.

If you were like me as a kid, you backed down after that. Why?

The word because assumes a cause effect relationship. For this reason, when the critical factor of your mind hears that word, it treats it as a cue to let the speaker through to your unconscious mind.

It’s been found in various studies that when you make a request followed by the word because (with a phrase), doing so will increase responsiveness to your request by as much as 50%.

That has huge implications to the business world In sales, negotiations, customer relations and, most of all, leadership. Let’s take a look at a few scenarios.

Delivering Corrective Feedback

Most leaders when giving corrective feedback simply make a request for a new behavior, like …

“Tom, you need to turn your cell phone off during meetings.”

Some employees will adhere. Others will resist, rebel or ignore. Let’s replay the conversation. This time using word because.

“Tom, you need to turn off your cell phone during meetings because others find it disruptive and a distraction. Please watch it going forward.”

Explaining why the behavior needs to be changed (because) causes the recipient of the feedback to see the damage caused.

Goal Buy-in

Our goal is to answer all customer calls within 60 minutes.”

“We will always answer all customer calls within 60 minutes because we have found that doing so, increases customer retention and that will increase the frequency of bonuses.”

That is persuasive. Just stating your goals does little for employee motivation. Helping employees to see the why behind the goal – for them and the company – does.

Motivation

“,We’re going to have an awesome month, team!”

We’re going to have an awesome month because we have the best company culture in the industry, our customer returns are at an all time low, and our sales team is on the fast track to closing more business.”

It’s great to believe in people. It’s more motivating, however, to tell them why you believe in them.

  1. “AND”
    (always use in place of “but”)

And – when used with intention – is one of the most powerful, persuasive words in the English language.

Let’s look at one specific leadership application of this word that can eliminate all resistance, even in the toughest of conversations with your employees. That application is using and in place of the word but.

It’s a leader’s responsibility to give honest feedback – even corrective feedback – to its employees. Unfortunately, many leaders use the word but in delivering their corrective feedback.

“You did a great job with this report, but it was filled with many misspellings.”

But is one of the most dangerous words to use in any conversation. It negates everything you said before the word but. In the above examples, it means – you did not really think that person did a great job.

Now eliminate the word but and replace it with and. Notice the difference in tone, the ability to receive the feedback without resistance, as well as the ability to add a follow-on.

“You did a great job with this report and it was filled with many misspellings. So let’s get started in cleaning up those misspellings to make it even better.”

  1. “AWARE”

This is one of my personal favorite power words because simply saying the word will cause the listener to mentally process what you brought up. Aware … and related words like realize or experience … are important additions to your influence arsenal because everything that follows those words is presupposed to be true.

Let’s take a look at some powerful leadership examples.

“You are probably already aware of the fact that when you practice our company value of respect, you will create comradery with your teammates.

“Are you starting to experience how easily you can use these words to become a more influential leader?”

  1. “NOW”

With the word now, you direct one’s thinking and focus to the present time. In your leadership role, let’s look at some examples where you are implanting, at the unconscious level, a thought of positive change in the here and now.

“As you take a few minutes to collect your thoughts, notice how effortlessly solutions come to you NOW.”

“By NOW, you may be wondering what other changes can you make with the power of words.”

While, by no means, are these the only power words that leaders can use to influence. The above words, however, are unique in their ability to bypass resistance and create positive change easily and naturally.

The most influential people know how to use words and language intentionally to inspire, motivate and win the hearts and minds of others, even their biggest opponents.

The next time you give feedback to your employee … the next time you want to inspire your team to follow your vision … the next time you negotiate a big deal with a potential customer, imagine how good you will feel because you used your power words and achieved your desired outcome. You can start experiencing those good feelings now.

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Denise Corcoran is known by her clients as a Leadership Game-Changer. She assists growth-seeking companies develop game-changing leadership teams and organizations that drive double and triple digit growth … by design.

Learn how to master your Inner Game of Leadership, by downloading Denise’s free report – Wired to Win Big: 7 Inner Leadership Game Strategies For Rising to the Top and Staying There. Connect with Denise at her Blog, LinkedIn and Twitter.

If you would like to accelerate your leadership game and transform your performance, email Denise with any questions or request a complimentary Leadership Strategy Session at Denise@EmpoweredBusiness.com.

Excerpt: There is no leadership without influence. Learn the quickest way of increasing your leadership influence with 5 simple words.

Playing with a Full Deck – Free downloadable book by Tom Vanderbeck, Part 1

Illustration 1In an email to me, one of our contributors, Tom Vanderbeck, put forth the notion that “One can effectively lead and empower others only to the extent that one can demonstrate compassion, mastery, and accountability for self-leadership.”

I found this perspective intriguing and asked him to expand on this perception. He responded by sending me his book on that topic.

I found Tom’s message and approach both timely and practical, so I asked him if I could share his insights with our readers. He said “yes”. We are therefore very pleased to be able to offer Tom’s new book, serialised in free, downloadable parts.

PLAYING the Game of Life WITH A FULL DECK
A Primer on Compassionate, Proactive Self Leadership and Personal Accountability … for conversations at the kitchen table

Clearly, others were also impressed by Tom’s work.

The FOREWORD was written by Ken Blanchard (“The One Minute Manager”® & “Leading at a Higher Level”). Here’s an excerpt from Ken’s Foreword:

“Tom offers a unique perspective on self leadership and encouragement for realizing our potentials to create a life of growth, purpose, contribution, sharing, and fulfillment. He will teach you how to transcend “Spiritual Amnesia” and the “Negative Automatic Program” and will offer you practical and proactive skills for personal power.”

One of Tom’s former graduate students, Olivier Hendriks, (M.Sc. Psychologist, The Netherlands) writes:

“Full Deck is profoundly important, full of insights, and entertaining to read. Tom, you really stirred up my life on the academic, professional, and personal levels. This is a wonderful book!”

Here’s an extract I like which offers a little more on Tom’s approach:

“Many of us have not been aware of two essential components of human consciousness, the Negative Automatic Program, or ‘NAP’, and Spiritual Amnesia. This doubly unfortunate lack of awareness severely limits our experiences of awakening our personal potentials. I call this way of being ‘Not Playing with a Full Deck’. The truth is we were all dealt a full deck of cards for playing the game of life. However, none of us were made aware of the Two Jokers, the NAP and Spiritual Amnesia. When we feel confused, frustrated, and unfulfilled; and conclude that we have not been ‘Playing With A Full Deck'; the problem has not been too few cards, but two too many.”

The Leader-Values community is already very familiar with some of Tom’s practical and well-researched contributions. For example, ‘Business Leadership for Industry‘, ‘Ed Norton Contractor Case Study; and ‘A Simple Bright White Belt .

You can now look forward to free downloading and reading of a series of seven instalments of Playing with a Full Deck:

  1. Foreword by Ken Blanchard, and Chapter One:  The Quest to Find Myself
  2. Chapter Two:  The Negative Automatic Program
  3. Chapter Three:  Spiritual Amnesia
  4. Chapter Four:  Transcending the NAP
  5. Chapter Five:  Response-Ability
  6. Chapter Six:  Recovery from Spiritual Amnesia
  7. Chapter Seven:  Self Actualization

To get started, here’s the Foreword and Part 1. Other will follow in the next days. Enjoy!

DOWNLOAD HERE: Playing with a Full Deck – Introduction & Foreword

DOWNLOAD HERE: Playing with a Full Deck – Chapter 1


Copyright © Thomas James Vanderbeck / L113 – 150418 / TVELM@Cox.net